We’ve all been there: the 18-month-old who screams at the top of his lungs (in public) when he doesn’t get his way. The 2-year-old who melts down unless she gets the blue bowl and ONLY the blue bowl. Or perhaps the 3-year-old who flat-out refuses to leave the park. How in the world are you supposed to handle these heated situations when you’re dealing with a little, persistent person who is driven by emotions and impulses, not logic?
I would have to be honest and admit that this is the reason why I do not go out with my kids. I have tried a few times but came home sooooo emotionally depleted.
Surely, we can all agree that toddler tantrums can be embarrassing for parents or caregivers, especially if they occur in public. However, it’s important to remember that tantrums are a normal part of a toddler’s development and are not a reflection of your parenting skills. Okay? Okay!
So many people have told me this and now I get it… It’s also important to try not to let the embarrassment or concern for what others may think affect how you respond to your child’s tantrum. Instead, focus on calmly managing the situation and helping your toddler learn to express their emotions in a more appropriate way. Other parents or caregivers have likely experienced similar situations, so try not to worry too much about what others may think.
According to Kids Health, tantrums may happen when kids are tired, hungry, or uncomfortable. They can have a meltdown because they can’t have something they want (like a toy or candy) or can’t get someone to do what they want (like getting a parent to pay attention to them immediately or getting a sibling to give up the tablet).
Stay calm: When your toddler is having a tantrum, it can be easy to get frustrated or upset. However, it’s important to stay calm and in control of your own emotions and not make it worse because you are losing it can make it worse.
Sometimes, a change of scenery or a new activity can help redirect your toddler’s attention and stop the tantrum.. so a distraction might be a good idea.
Set boundaries: While it’s important to validate your toddler’s feelings, it’s also important to set boundaries and let them know what is and is not acceptable behavior. Please train yourself on how to do this firmly but gently as well.
Consistency is key when it comes to managing tantrums. If your toddler learns that tantrums won’t get them what they want, they will be less likely to continue the behavior.
Finally the one advise I will not get tired of sharing with you…
Take care of yourself:
Dealing with toddler tantrums can be exhausting, so make sure you take care of yourself and take breaks when needed.
PS, You are doing a great job.
Written by: Chareen Kauazunda