I would like you to look at yourself, tell yourself & say “SELF”: “I will not compare myself to strangers on the Internet.”
Why do we torture ourselves into thinking that our lives are not good enough as soon as we see someone else doing something amazing? Why do we question our importance, our whole lifestyle and our whole being as people? There’s that quote by President Theodore Roosevelt that says, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” A quote that has definitely evolved in the last few years of our existence. Boy oh boy was he onto something. We all pretend online, right? Come on, admit it, you know that you don’t post a selfie when you’ve just woken up and one of your eyes is stuck together all crusty-looking or when you’ve found some dried up drool on your chin. You don’t post a picture of your failed driver’s license results. Yet we still seem to compare that part of our lives to the best part of everyone else’s that we see online, and allow ourselves to feel like absolute garbage.
Did you ever think that just like you, there are some things that those ‘perfect’ people aren’t proud of and don’t post online? Bing Bong! People show you what they want you to see, in the same way you show everyone else what you want them to see. When we compare ourselves to others, we are saying that the good things about our very own lives aren’t enough and that we aren’t appreciative for them & spoiler alert, focusing on that will never leave us feeling ok. All the things someone else has going for them don’t make us any less, but comparing ourselves and being jealous of them does. Say it a million times over so that it spills over into your sleep. If you want to be happy, if you want to be free, you need to “stop comparing yourself”, especially to people you don’t even know, on the internet.
I’m not saying that it will be a breeze, or that we have got this all figured out, but let’s rather say that it is kind of a big deal and any progress on the matter is GOOD work!!
Written by: Chazz Mubita