Check yourself, say yes to you.

Last week, I had a conversation with a very close friend of mine about how imperative it is that we choose ourselves more this year, regardless of how much it hurts. One of the struggles I have had over the years is choosing myself… I do not know how to put myself first and be a little bit more selfish and it is something I am still trying to unlearn.

Let this be a reminder to all of us who struggle with this that it’s not selfish for you to choose you, so let’s all get on the same page and stop doing a big disservice to ourselves by constantly discarding ourselves especially our needs. Let this be the beginning of you SAYING YES TO the most important person in your life, YOU!

I KNOW ALL TOO WELL THAT WE DON’T DO PSA’S ON FRESH FM ANYMORE BUUUUTTT HERE IS AN IMPORTANT ONE: STOP SEEKING THE APPROVAL OF OTHERS AND SAY YES TO YOURSELF!

The end. Period. Too many of us are missing out on the life we were meant to live because we are waiting on someone to support our ideas, dreams, etc. It’s time for us to stop placing our dreams in the hands of someone else.

Not everyone will understand the visions placed inside of you and you have to be okay with that. That doesn’t mean don’t go for it. It just means that you may have to go for it alone. Scary? Yes! but, definitely possible.

Why are we so afraid to make moves alone? It’s me, I’m we. I face this problem way too often. I always feel like I need approval to achieve my goals. I need the YES of the people around me before I make my move. And if I never get a yes, then I dead it. I felt like if the people close to me don’t see the vision, why would anybody else?! These people know me best right? Wrong! We were conditioned this way so it is hard to break out of this habit. But, this is so important for our wellbeing and the security of our futures.

Stand ten toes down for you! I will say that again for the people in the back, stand ten toes down for you. Place your feet on the pavement and get to running to your dreams. If you are sitting around seeking validation to live your life you are doing yourself a true disservice and you my friend will have plenty of miserable days.

We have to be okay with making moves alone. I used to be the girl that needed someone to tag along or I wasn’t going. There was no way I was going to an event, no matter what it was alone. I needed reinforcement, but then I realized that this is MY life.

 I’m working on MY future, where I’m going everybody cannot come and I might have to move on my own sometimes. I’m glad I changed my thinking because as I’ve started to take hold of me, some great opportunities have been placed in my sights. Had I waited on someone to join me I may have missed out.

Long story short, stop seeking validation to make moves for yourself. There are some things you have to do for you and there are some places only you can go. You’ll only see the full picture if you go by yourself sometimes. You will notice this in small things like solo dates… We come into this world alone, we are gonna leave alone, why are we so dependent on someone else securing us?!