Let’s face it, everyone wants to find someone special. We all want to share our magical journeys with someone we love, honor, and respect.
I don’t know about you, but it seems lately everyone I know is either getting engaged, married, or about to have children (BUT this one God can take His time because I CANNOT afford more kids) lol…. Being a single woman in your 30’s can be challenging at times. Personally, I believe there is more than one Mr. or Ms. Right out there for us, which increases the odds tenfold to find that someone special.
I am sure that people who are single want to find someone special. But are they prepared? Me included in this… Preparing for love is an incredibly arduous journey of self-discovery, character building, and awareness. It is definitely the road less traveled, but so worthwhile in the end.
I recently learned about the “READY” model: This has worked for so man people to find a safe sure love….
Re-Learn Yourself
We are advised to have an honest conversation with ourselves about your past relationships and your feelings toward love. Know what type of persons attract you and why. Are they naughty or nice? Or if they make you think twice?
Learning your patterns and behaviors within relationships is of vital importance. You must recognize your role(s), ground yourself in reality, and use this awareness when stepping forward into the unknown. Otherwise, you will fall into the same old patterns, continue to make the same old choices, and yield the same old results.
That’s why awareness is key. This time, it will be different.
Drama no more! (Remember that Mary J Blige song) Yup that’s me now… That will be your new mantra, meditation, or positive self-talk.
Get rid of all the dirty laundry (aka exes) that is no longer serving you. Make the phone call. Have the final conversation. Accept your part of the responsibility. Get the closure you need. Honor your past relationship. Now, close your eyes, take three deep breaths, figuratively catapult them from your space, open your eyes, and move forward.
Be specific. Be outrageous. Be confident in your choices. BE AUDACIOUS!
Remember, Ask and you shall receive.
Decide to Put Yourself Out There
You must put yourself out there as much as possible, whether physically or virtually.
I remember a friend of mine asking me how I expect to meet anyone if I am always home…. or work then home lol
Put yourself out there and have fun and meet new people. You never know!
You Stay Fearless
Be patient. Be authentic. Be fearless. All good things to those who wait.
It’s not a sprint, it’s a marathon. Keep your hope alive at every minute. When hope starts to fade, return to step three, visualize your new love walking toward you and repeat. It helps.
These should help you to open the space for love. Simultaneously, you will also sharpen your character, build your confidence, discover your wants and desires, and tighten your awareness. Sounds like a win-win to me. Now, go prepare yourself for love!
Lisa Nichols advises us to:
1. Love yourself.
2. Clear any limiting beliefs about partnership.
3. Take action
But listen more to her heartwarming take on this… I just love her..
(2) How To Prepare Yourself for Love – Lisa Nichols – YouTube
Love
Shai_Quan xx