Wanna thrive in your 30’s? Let’s talk…

As I walked into this year, I took some time to recognize that I am filled with joy. I have lived and learned. Although I still have much living and much learning to do, I am blessed to have found how to thrive in this world. Life is what you make it. You can be afraid to face your fronts and let life pass you by or you can do as I have decided. I have decided to live my life AUDACIOUSLY… that is the theme of my year, 2023.  Taking on whatever comes my way with boldness. One of my friends reminded me that life is like a roller coaster. It’s filled with many ups, downs, twists and turns. Remember roller coasters were created for enjoyment and so is life. Throw your hands up and yell at the fun times. Know some of the ride will be uneasy, but you’ll get through it. The ride may be frightening but be audacious enough to hop on anyway. Having learned these 6 things I finally know what it means to live my best life.  

AUDACITY…*

Shhh it’s the secret! Girl if you want to live your best life I’ve learned that it takes audacity. You have to be bold and stop playing yourself. How are you sleeping on your own self? Have the audacity to show up and be the best version of yourself. Unapologetically! No apologies, no worry, no fear! Have the audacity to speak and live your truth. For way too long I was afraid to show up as myself. Once I stepped into the confidence inside of me it unleashed the idea of audacity. I had to be bold and walk in my purpose. Now I’m like Lil Nas X, “can’t tell me nothing.” Be audacious in all that you do. The theme of this year for me is Audaciously 2023.

It’s okay to… wait for it…. Ask for help. *breathe*  

ASK FOR HELP!!! I think I may have just said a cuss word. We as women feel like we have to be a Superhero in everything we do. It’s cool to be a superhero but, when all the superheroes come together, they become the Avengers. They can’t take on the big task by themselves. They need each other to win the war. To be honest,  I’m done trying to be super all by myself. I understand that it is impossible and I’m done trying to live up to this standard that women have to do it all with no help. This is where that Tribe comes in handy. This girl is asking for help. For a long time, I let my pride keep me from thriving. I would be too proud and sometimes too fearful to ask anybody for help. Not anymore!! Think about the most successful people in the world, they have teams of people helping them be great. So why in the world am I trying to do it all by myself? Sis, I don’t know about you but, I’m asking for help.

Have Faith….
  

God comes first in my life. Periodt! Puuuurrrr!!  In my short years of living, I have learned that it is better to walk by faith than by sight. What I see has nothing on what my God can do. God has been with me all my life and baby He is not going anywhere. He has opened doors, healed me and made more ways than I can say. I couldn’t imagine my life without Him. I have learned that things happen, storms come, but God will carry you through it all. In order to thrive you absolutely need faith in God. I truly believe I can do all things through Christ and that’s how I live my best life.

Vulnerability.  

I’m done living up to the hype. To thrive in my life, I had to become vulnerable. Trying to be the strong person all the time is not living. It’s not real life. Be who you are, your true self and live it to the fullest. Feel all the feels, that is okay. Stop being “strong” and feel. Not only is it okay to feel but express said feelings. In order to truly thrive you have to open yourself up and be who you really are. Stop putting on the facade and BE YOU!!

You know what we are not doing this year??? Never ever giving up!  

So many times, in life I have wanted to give up. I’ve wanted to give up on myself, my purpose, my life, everything. Something I’ve learned is trying and failing is better than not trying at all. Giving up is not an option for me, even when it feels like I can’t finish this race of life. That’s where my faith comes in. I tell myself all the time YOU GOT THIS!! I do but, only if I never give up, so my advice to you is don’t ever give up. THRIVE!!
Love  

Shai xx